How to be a better sub

To be honest I don’t really know the answer but will write down what I think I have learned in 11 years of visiting a Mistress

This is really for those of us who have been seeing a Mistress for some time I’ve wrote in length about how to see a Mistress for the first time if you look back in my archive.

There are somethings that are obvious but I will just repeat them. Book as many sessions as you can especially in this cost of living crisis I feel you have to be as regular a client as possible.

Turn up on time and unless it is a emergency try not to cancel a session.

Now I was a complete novice when I started 11 years ago, I knew literally nothing and was very nervous and unsure. As the years have gone by I still am a little nervous but much more aware of my actions before durning and after a session.

What really helped me was the much criticised Twitter. I opened an account in my kink persona and very quickly found fellow subs and sissies who were ultra friendly and very helpful.

I was helped very much by a submissive from Merseyside who I frequently sent private messages to with my concerns and worries and he was kind enough to take the time to answer all my questions and give me pratical good advice.

I would say that like most things in life the harder you try and work the better things get. If you want your Mistress to be happy then you have to work at it.

I find the sessions are much more enjoyable if you fully commit to them and you let all inibitions go. I am lucky that Mistress Lilith is an expert at role plat and reading body language. Without me telling her much she knows just the right words and when to use them and knows exactly how to punish me for the maximum effect.

I find that the happier I can make Mistress in the session the more fun it is for me. Communication is the key and making sure you know what you are doing.

I find when the spanking starts to hurt if I kick my legs it makes Mistress genuinely laugh and she then spanks me harder and it is win win I feel great getting a more serious punishment and I know Mistress is really enjoying it.

I try to remmeber all through the session what I was doing or saying to make Mistress laugh and try to repeat that behaviour.

In life making people happy is one of the things I love the most and durning a session is not different,

Outwith the session if there is an onlyfans or tasks you can purchase that is also a good way of making your Mistress happy.

Be supportive of any tweets or instagram post that your Mistress has.Write a review for any of the review sites. If you are on Twitter let everyone know how much you enjoy the sessions and how much they will as well. You are basically trying to do a PR job and it really is not difficult just be enthusiastic and honest and you will be fine.

Without obviously invading your Mistresses private life find out as much as you can about her via her Twitter and Instagram posts she what she likes and favourites as I find this is an excellent way of getting gifts for her that you know she will like. Remember to ask permission first I had a fall out with a fellow sub who said I should not do this but when I asked Mistress Lilith she said it was fine.

Your Mistress will have an Amazon or a wishme list with items you can gife at all prices and this is also an excellent way of being a better sub showing you are thinking of her between the sessions.

I would say the happier I make Mistress Lilith the happier I am it makes me feel so good and I think especially in the sessions if Mistress is laughing and joking it makes the sessions so much more fun for both of us.
Quick example I am hopeless at roleplay but as sissy Marmy I find that the more I try to act like she would the better the session is. During the session when I was told I was getting extra strokes of the wooden paddle I quickly went into character and stamped my heels down and complained in a very bratty manner and Mistress Lilith started to laugh not at me but at my actions and called me a spoiled little brat and doubled the 12 strokes of the paddle to 24. Now I don’t think this would have happened if I had just stayed quiet and I know it made Mistress Lilith happy to see me playing along.

I guess I will never be sure exactly how happy I make Mistress in the sessions but I hope that I do and I hope this little piece gives you some help and ideas if you are having similar thoughts as mine.

New improved bucket list

Not in any particularI order these are the things I would like to try out as I continue my journey through submission with the wonderful Mistress Lilith

Making Mistress Lilith happy and have fun is paramount but these things I list would make me happier and I think this would make Mistress even happier and I would be more confident and outgoing in the sessions

Over the knee punishment handspanking to tears no stopping till Mistress thinks I’ve had enough

This has and will always be my numer 1 for things I would like Mistress to do to me.
100% not topping from the bottom here just going on experience

I’ve been handspanked by about 6? different Dommes and a lot of them have been very sore the hardest handspanker was the much missed Mistress Ana. I though she was using a wooden paddle she was spanking so hard. Later that night she sent me a message on Twitter of a photo of her hand whuch was red and brused from spanking me and I felt really bad as it was me who should have been hurt not her. But Mistress Ana really spanked me ridiculously hard and it was at the start of the session and an amazing experience.

Hard as Mistres Lilith handspanks (and that is very hard trust me) it is not as hard as Mistress Ana.
All the other things on this bucket list are technically doable but this one is not

A single Domme no matter how hard she spanks can’t make me cry from just a handspanking.

I really think this is true and is not a boast or a goad it is just I think I can tolerate a very hard handspanking pretty

The rule is it has to be at the start f the session not after I have been strapped and cance etc

Lots of the Mistresess have lovely fancy long painted fingernails and I think that is part of the reason the handspankings will not hurt much and they can’t make me cry

Could I be spanked by hand to the sobbing and crying level by just the hand? I honeslty don’t think so

https://www.mistresslilith.com/ incidently to check out the site and make a session booking

Proper outfit

I’ve never been 100% happy with my outfit for the sessions

It is really important that I feel right and part of the thrill for me it to be wearing the same outfits as the girls do in the spanking videos

I want to be dressed and feel exactly how they do I know it doesn’t make much sense but I know so far I’ve never really got it right

Something like this with black stockings and strappy high heels it looks an easy outfit to put together but I have not managed it yet
What is important is I like the feel of a tight wide belt roound my waist even more so when I still feel it when my skirt issup and panties down and being spanked on the bare bottom same as the feeling on my ankles from the strappy high heels and even the watch tight on my wrist

Kidnap scenario

This more and more consumes my day dreams. A friend had a kidnap scenario role and he said it was the best session ever.

Not sure what it would consist of bundled into a vehicle and then taken to the studio and punished?
But it sounds very exciting

But this is non started for logistical and finacial reasons too many people would neeb to be involved

Birching

I’ve seen quite a few videos of this and apparently it is a slow build up at the start that gets more and more painful as the birching continues. Looks pretty intense but different to any other thing I have been punished with
I leaves great marks not really the ones I like I just like a scarlett bum aith the odd can mark but am willing to try any impliment especially the birch

Pegging

This for me would show my total surrender and upmost trust in Mistress Lilith to try this

I don’t think Mistress Lilith wants my soul I have offered it many times but I know she is quite happy punishing my physical body and being pegged and been called all sort of names makesmy heart beat faster the thought of Mistress Lilith doing this to me makes me feel my heart is almost coming out of my chest
But if my soul in unwanted then this for me is giving up my body to Msitress

You wear short skirts that show off your bum and you admit you want to be penetrated and desipite many warnings about this kind of dressing up and flashing your underwear means only one thing you are getting tied to the spanking bench and taking from behind hard wi the strap on.
That is how I guess the ropleplay would go but Mistress would do the scenario a million times better than my effort.

The thought of this happening after a painful spanking session makes we weak at the kness and a little scared but as Mistress Lilith has said quite a few times it is good to try thing out that you are frightened of. I have absolute trust that Mistress Lilith would take good care of me and keep me safe doing this