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Mistress Lilith’s day

With tremendous apologies to Shakespeare who I stole huge chunks of his St Crispan’s day speech and it is not obvious what he wrote and I did my writing is so good ha ha only joking but I had fun writing it

Once more unto the session, dear friends, once more,
To close the dungeon door with Lilith’s lore.
In session’s grip, we’ll find our dark delight,
With Mistress Lilith, our desires ignite.
On this enchanted eve, her presence near,
We submit willingly, our souls laid bare.
Bound by her gaze, and by her leather hand,
We surrender to the pleasures she has planned.
For in her dominion, power and grace combine,
Her words, like poetry, weave a tale divine.
With every crack of whip and gentle touch,
She guides us through a realm we yearn for much.
Her dungeon is a stage, our bodies mere players,
Exploring depths of pleasure, where fantasies layer.
We, her loyal subjects, willing and devout,
Seek liberation through pain, there’s no doubt.
Though shadows dance upon the walls with might,
We embrace the darkness, and surrender to her might.
With every mark upon our flesh, a testament we bear,
To Mistress Lilith’s artistry, her mastery of care
And when the session’s end draws near,
We’ll carry her essence, her spirit, dear.
For Mistress Lilith, the catalyst of our release,
In her sanctuary, we find solace and peace.
This day is called the session day with Lilith
He that outlives this day, and comes safe home,
Will stand a tip-toe when the day is named,
And rouse him at the name of Lilith.
He that shall live this day, and see old age,
Will yearly on the vigil feast his neighbours,
And say ‘To-morrow is Mistress Lilith day:’
Then he will lower his clothes and show his marks.
And say ‘These wounds I had on session day.’
Old men forget: yet all shall be forgot,
But he’ll remember with advantages
What feats he did that day: then shall our names.
Familiar in his mouth as household words
Marmalade Johnstone, Beebop, and Jade maid
And Mistress Lilith shall ne’er go by,
From this day to the ending of the world,
But we in it shall be remember’d;
We few, we happy few, we band of brothers;
And subs and slaves in Scotland now a-bed
Shall think themselves accursed they were not here,
And hold their manhoods cheap whiles any speaks
Their souls shall weep,
Bound by regret, in restless sleep.
For they shall hear tales of pleasure and bliss,
Echoing through the night,
Join the session with Lilith, embrace the night.
For in her realm, true liberation is found,
And those who partake shall forever be crowned

Spanking implements and my experience with them

This is only a personal opinion based on my 11 years of having sessions the vast majority with Mistress Lilith at the fantastic Abstraktme studios in Glasgow

HAND SPANKING whilst over the knee

This is one of my favourite punishments simple classic and effective.

Mistress Lilith spanks with her hand very hard. There is no real rhythm to the blows some are fast and on the same spot others are on different cheeks and slower

The spanking hurts a lot but not as much as I would like I always wanted to be spanked over the knee so hard that I would be crying and then spanked harder but as I said it does hurt a lot but I don’t think I can be made to cry by just a hand spanking perhaps if the spanking was given after the other punishments then it may work I don’t know as a hand spanking always starts the session nevr ends it,

I feel more humiliated and yet more happy knowing Mistress Lilith has me under full control no matter how I struggle I just can’t get away from her and when I try and put my hands over my bottom to stop the spanking I just get my arm pinned back to my back and Mistress constinues the spanking

The humiliation is off the scale when Mistress Lilith scolds me while continuing to spank and tells me how much of a little slut I am and how naughty I have been with the spanks usually following the beat of her words.

Nothing humiliates me more than the moment when after my skirt is pulled up then my panties and pulled down to my knee are my bare bottom is exposed. No feeling like it ad I love it so much but not at the time.

TAWSE

I find the tawse fearsome. Mistress Lilith has used at least 3 on my maybe more.

A Lochgelly tawse a Lochgelly XS tawse and a Glasgow strap.

I have not been tawsed on the hands for some time which is a pity. When I get the tawse on my hands I see Mistress Lilith in all her glory standing in front of me. This is great as all the other punishments I can’t see Mistress as she is out of sight while administering them. I see how confident and powerful she is while holding the tawse. I can see her smile as she orders me to hold out my hands. I she her smirk and sometime laugh as i recoil and pain and rub the palm of my hand after a particular hard stroke and they are all very hard.
6 of the best of the tawse hurts a lot and twice for cheek and answering back I have had 12 and that brings tears to my eye and sometime light sobbing. My hands at work the next day are still tender and if it is 12 of the tawse there is light brusing and I love it

The tawse on the backside is truly an awesome experience/ I hurts so much and with Mistress Liliths expert aim my entire bum is on fire from one stroke and it wraps around to the side of my thighs. I don’t think I have ever had the tawse on my bum full force but it has been more than hard enough to get me crying even though I try not to. It leave beautiful red marks which last till the next morning. I love the tawse on my bum and don’t get it nearly enough/

FLOGGERS

Various types of leather floggers. All make a swishing sound and cover the whole of my bum when they hit it. This is probably the least painful of the implements I get used on me. Although Mistress Lilith can use quick flips of her wrist to deliver many blows in quick succession and this can sting a little.

LEATHER PADDLES

Depending on the type these can be mild or very painful

At the lower end of the scale there is the leather paddle with holes. don’t get me wrong it hurts but I seem to be able to take quite a lot of punishment with this without crying out. It makes a lovely swishing sound then a nice slapping sund when it hits

Mistress Lilith likes a oval shaped leather paddle she says she loves the noise it makes when it hits and how it delivers a large red mark when it lands over most of one bum cheek. Again I don’t think Mistress has used full force with this one but when she delivers medium force quick blows it does make me cry out in pain

Various thickness and width leather straps

There are three straps that I remember the most

First one is about 2 inches wide and medium thickness. This one is painful and I have cried after 6 medium strokes with this

Second one is about 6 inches wide and it really hurts a lot after one stroke I am sobbing and quickly I am reduced to proper tears as it covers the entire of my backside and really stings.

Studded paddle which is a horror show. about three inches wide one side smooth leather red with studs the other side black rough leather with studs

The red side is a sore as anything I have been hit with. I stupidly chose this paddle when told to fetch a paddle to be punished with I had never had it before so had no idea what it would feel like and wanted to try a huge mistake.

Mistress Lilith could not stop laughing when I gave it to her and her eye were gleaming with joy as she told me hw much this would hurt

I’m not kidding I could hardly get the word one out of my mouth after the first stroke landed I have never felt my bum go on fire like that before. Mistress Lilith kept me safe but she told me I had to have the other 5 strokes and she didn’t hold back. By the second stroke I was openly crying and by the sixith I had tears streaming down my face and was sobbing uncontrollably.

It got worse Mistress insisted I had to take 6 with the black side of the paddle . She just ran it across my bum and the roughness of the paddle even hurt me but just doing that. The six strokes of this were by far the most painful of the punishments I have ever had. I was howling and crying so much that Mistress counted out the strokes for me. When it was done Mistress rubbed my bum with some wet wipes and told me how well I had done as only serious pain sluts get this paddle normally. She showed me my bum in the mirror and to my surprise and great joy the skin had been broken all over and I felt so happy that I had finally arrived and took a proper serious spanking finally

I was so happy after the session as I could not sit comfortably and the marks lasted 5 days which I loved

THE CANE

I have received lots of canings from Mistress Lilith with various canes from thin whippy canes to thicker heavier canes.

The ritual of having to bend over and touch my toes and have Mistress Lilith pull up my skirt and lower my panties to my ankles makes me so excited scared and dizzy with excitement

Again I doubt I have even had a moderate strength caning from Mistress Lilith I know she is holding back but it very much hurts and hurts a lot.

There is just the most amazing sound of the swish of the cane though the air then a sharp sting as it hits. Like everything else used on my the faster the next stroke is delivered the more it hurts. I go from tears in my eyes to proper crying depending on how many strokes I get. It leaves lovely thin red marks on me that last about a day.

Mistress has threatened to cane the front and back of my thighs this
I would like to try very much.

How to be a better sub

To be honest I don’t really know the answer but will write down what I think I have learned in 11 years of visiting a Mistress

This is really for those of us who have been seeing a Mistress for some time I’ve wrote in length about how to see a Mistress for the first time if you look back in my archive.

There are somethings that are obvious but I will just repeat them. Book as many sessions as you can especially in this cost of living crisis I feel you have to be as regular a client as possible.

Turn up on time and unless it is a emergency try not to cancel a session.

Now I was a complete novice when I started 11 years ago, I knew literally nothing and was very nervous and unsure. As the years have gone by I still am a little nervous but much more aware of my actions before durning and after a session.

What really helped me was the much criticised Twitter. I opened an account in my kink persona and very quickly found fellow subs and sissies who were ultra friendly and very helpful.

I was helped very much by a submissive from Merseyside who I frequently sent private messages to with my concerns and worries and he was kind enough to take the time to answer all my questions and give me pratical good advice.

I would say that like most things in life the harder you try and work the better things get. If you want your Mistress to be happy then you have to work at it.

I find the sessions are much more enjoyable if you fully commit to them and you let all inibitions go. I am lucky that Mistress Lilith is an expert at role plat and reading body language. Without me telling her much she knows just the right words and when to use them and knows exactly how to punish me for the maximum effect.

I find that the happier I can make Mistress in the session the more fun it is for me. Communication is the key and making sure you know what you are doing.

I find when the spanking starts to hurt if I kick my legs it makes Mistress genuinely laugh and she then spanks me harder and it is win win I feel great getting a more serious punishment and I know Mistress is really enjoying it.

I try to remmeber all through the session what I was doing or saying to make Mistress laugh and try to repeat that behaviour.

In life making people happy is one of the things I love the most and durning a session is not different,

Outwith the session if there is an onlyfans or tasks you can purchase that is also a good way of making your Mistress happy.

Be supportive of any tweets or instagram post that your Mistress has.Write a review for any of the review sites. If you are on Twitter let everyone know how much you enjoy the sessions and how much they will as well. You are basically trying to do a PR job and it really is not difficult just be enthusiastic and honest and you will be fine.

Without obviously invading your Mistresses private life find out as much as you can about her via her Twitter and Instagram posts she what she likes and favourites as I find this is an excellent way of getting gifts for her that you know she will like. Remember to ask permission first I had a fall out with a fellow sub who said I should not do this but when I asked Mistress Lilith she said it was fine.

Your Mistress will have an Amazon or a wishme list with items you can gife at all prices and this is also an excellent way of being a better sub showing you are thinking of her between the sessions.

I would say the happier I make Mistress Lilith the happier I am it makes me feel so good and I think especially in the sessions if Mistress is laughing and joking it makes the sessions so much more fun for both of us.
Quick example I am hopeless at roleplay but as sissy Marmy I find that the more I try to act like she would the better the session is. During the session when I was told I was getting extra strokes of the wooden paddle I quickly went into character and stamped my heels down and complained in a very bratty manner and Mistress Lilith started to laugh not at me but at my actions and called me a spoiled little brat and doubled the 12 strokes of the paddle to 24. Now I don’t think this would have happened if I had just stayed quiet and I know it made Mistress Lilith happy to see me playing along.

I guess I will never be sure exactly how happy I make Mistress in the sessions but I hope that I do and I hope this little piece gives you some help and ideas if you are having similar thoughts as mine.

Kink world no longer a safe place for me

Ok I get nobody reads these blog post I get the analytics from WordPress and Twitter and I know they get if lucky 20 or so clicks

But I just want to get something off my chest and those that do read it may fall out with me or think I am just complaining about nothing but this is important to me.

If you have read any of my blog I go into a lot of detail about my early feelings of kink how alone I felt and had nobody I felt safe in confiding in. I had to keep these deep repressed feeling all to myself and then when the chance came to be able to express them it still took me years to book a session with a Mistress. This is all on me nobody else I take full responsibility for wasting more than a decade not expressing my kink side and if I am being truthful accepting it. Wanting to dress up as a girl and be spanked felt just too weird and part of me seemed to deny and make excuses for not doing it on the grounds that it was not normal behaviour and there was something wrong with me. I need to go back into the past to explain why and this is basically from a message on Twitter I sent to a friend.

Part of my problem I think is was bullied mercilessly at secondary school. I was always different I was painfully shy had long hair I liked classical music poetry and the arts, I was advanced 2 years as I used to be intelligent my best pal is 2 and a half years older than me and I id o grades at 14 and highers at 15 this I think made people dislike me. It was really because I have an Eidetic memory which has been a curse for my life and I think a major cause of my depression. While I liked and fancied girls I didn’t like the ones I was at school with one in particular was very attractive but a truly horrible nasty person and when she asked me out and I said no I got nothing but grief from her and her friends after that and then the taunts and nasty songs and allegations of homosexuality were aimed at me ( I am not gay and don’t consider being homosexual a slur but it is not nice a whole class of 30 people chanting at you that you are)
Everyday one or more girls would come up to me and scream ugly bastard to my face or weirdo or gay boy. Sometimes I was spat on as well.
Once I got a letter put in my drawer saying everybody hated me and I should do the right thing and kill myself
Constantly mentally and physically abuse
I struggled badly and my confidence and self esteem never really recovered even out of school I would be picked on and taunted every single day

My football career (career ha ha) gave me respite although I wasn’t like by the other boys in my school basically because I was away often playing in tournaments and got time off school plus I was a small boy with long hair and I think they resented me becauseI was a better player than any of them.

I mean this is nothing to do with kink but it shows how my self esteem and self confidence were reduced to absolute nothing and I felt worthless ugly and not deserving of any fun and happiness It shows how I felt the ordinary world to be a harsh and cruel place full of mean people who enjoyed making people suffer for no reason at all

So for the rest of this blog I am not going to name any names but I am going to tell the truth of events that has happened to me in the kink world and how now I feel so sad and disillusioned with what I thought was a fantasy land where I was safe and accepted

11 years ago in June I finally plucked up the courage and sent an email requesting a session. I would reprint that email but when I look at it today it really is an rambling mess a total shambles but to my amazement it was answered right away and a session was arranged and I was made to feel reassured about how everything would be ok

The session was amazing. When you fantasise about something for over 30 years there is always a worry that it will not be as good as you dared to dream. this was a million times better the excitement the fun everything about it I was hooked instantly and I had only 1 regret that I did not have sessions years ago

Over the years I booked sessions as often as my work timetable allowed. Everyone thrilled me as much as the 1st one did.
Except 1 where I had my only bad experience in a session but as I will explain this was more a misunderstanding than anything done out of malice or cruelty

While in a session once Mistress introduced 2 guest Mistresses then left the room one played a head teacher role and one of them acted in a school bully type role that I wasn’t expecting and it shook me up badly for months afterwards she called me lots of mean names and threw a glass of water over me as I was writing punishment lines. ‘
For someone who wanted a school bully session it would have been totally perfect and had every aspect of that particula role play you could ask for it was brilliantly done by a Mistress who clearly had the act down perfectly and was totally realistic

It just wasnt for me especially when I did not expect it.

I never told Mistress when she came back into the session but did confide in a fellow sub and he stopped talking to me because he said I should have told Mistress and written about it in the review I was asked to leave her as she was just starting as a Mistress. I was that frightened and had nightmares for weeks that I wasn’t thinking straight. I also stupidly started to self harm again cutting my wrists as I though the physical pain would take away the mental anguish I was feeeling
The funny thing is I am Twitter friends with the Mistress in question and I genuinely like her she is funny and interesting in her Tweets and when a particular mean troll was abusing and bullying me online she totally came to my rescue and gave me great support which I was so appreciative of she didnt need to do it but she sent this horrible person away with a number of blistering Tweets,

But this is why now I am feeling bad and unsafe in the kink world because the vanilla world in unbearable right now

Today I still get occasionally bullying in work not physical but mental and abusive language. One guy waiting till I came into the canteen and shouted me over he caught a mouse and put it in a microwave and turned it on. I pushed him out the way to open the door to let it out and he and 3 of his friends starting pushing me and only the foreman arriving stopped me getting beat up. To this day nobody talks to me I get abusive letters put in my locker once I opened my sandwich box and some one had spat on them

Since moving here I have twice been mugged slashed across my eye and cheek and also spat on and attempted to steal my money at the ATM. It really is the worst place I have ever stayed I feel unsafe at home outside and at work

So I consider the world of kink my escape pod from the horror I face everyday. But recently a lot of things that should not bother me are and are making me consider is it worth it being in the kink community

For starters I have an ex friend who for reasons I cant fathom continues to Tweet lies and nasty things about me saying I am a dangerous client I and not to be trusted and I smell and all the Dommes in the studio I use hate me and call me names
Some of it appears to be inside knowledge as things he has posted I have later found out to have truth in them

I also have another troll who I helped when he was first trying to get a Mistress. I tried to tell him how I felt and gave him the advice I would have liked but turned out he started to haggle over the tribute fee and was blcked by quite a few Dommes and he then took it out on me.

There are screengrabs galore of my private Dms to both of these people things I said in confidence which now everyone knows

I made my Twitter private but seem to have sleeper account where all of a sudden more abuse and lies about me come out

There is also something else that seriously worries me a lot. I read more and more Dommes putting up question polls on Twitter. Most seem to be about can a client and a Domme be friends. What do you think of your clients. Are client just to make money out of then be forgotten to the next session
To my horror over 85% of the answers are yes and these are backed up by comments in the poll tweet.,
The Mistress I serve has never said this nor do I think she would ever vote that way but when I see these answers for some reason it really gets me down and makes me think I am just a nobody like every other slave/sub

I thought the kink world was a safe pace for me one where I could be somewhere else with nobody to judge me and it would just be fun
But as ny fellow subs all seem to leave Twitter and the times between sessions get longer I can feel the beggingings of the end of the line for me
I really worry is I am boring in the sessions. Ive tried out lots of new things but I really like more than anything to be dressed up as a girl full outfit as realistic as it could feel to be an actual girl and to be taken over the knee and spanked really hard with had or hairbrush or any other item
I know other subs do more interesting and exciting things so this make me think as a client I am just a bore.

Nothing gold can say as the poem goes my boringness worries me my time is coming to an end,

Im so very very unhappy right now my football is gone so I am back to being an ordinary nothing of a person with no talent I never see my best friend and now my kink world is causing my major hassle instead of the joy it used to bring
I have not asked for any of this all I have ever done online on my kink Twitter is try to help people and give encouraging words if a fellow sub is feeling a bit down We formed a subsunion and for a while it was great we gave help and support to each other and it was quite a busy little community but now it seems I am one of the last men standing as most of the other members dont post and I am not even sure of they session either.

I have nobody to talk to or nowhere to go. One fellow sub is trying to help but he has enough on his plate without dealing with me

I keep on saying to myself with the new job I have with better pay and more days off there has never been a better time to really crank up the sessions and have lots of fun with the most amazing person I have ever met.
But at the same time I also somehow feel it is not going to be the same nothing to do with Mistress I just feel I have overstayed my welcome and I have this louder and louder nagging doubt that I am a boring client try as I do not to be.

I am totaly alone and I am running out of hope I have nobody to help me I have no support to fall back on even though I am used to doing things by myself in the real world I find this difficult to do here.

It feels one of the last things in life that truly makes me happy is floating away from me and I cant stop it.

Con te partiro? Perhaps

Though nobody reads this blog it sometimes helps me just a little to write down my thoughts. I don’t have anyone in my vanilla life apart from my father to talk to about my troubles and worries and in my kink life it is basically the same.

It is no big secret anymore that I have suffered badly from depression since my late teens and up to the present day. Been on Lithium and every other anti dperession/anxiey meds you can think of. Been hospitalised on three occasions and in the early days had the delight of ECT therapy.

I only told Mistress Lilith about this nobody else till I stupidly confided in a fellow sub who I considered a friend indeed in the near 11 years of sessioning he is the only person I have met in real life in my kink world. He most unhelpfully outed me and this caused no end of bother and trouble which I think still lasts to this day.

But what I am going to write today I promise you is not my depression talking it is not a post Xmas downer or the fact that I am back at work and I stay in a warzone or any other factors.

I just don’t kow if the kink world is for me anymore. This is all on me. Mistress Lilith still makes the sessions as fun and exciting and full of surprises as the first time I walked through the door.
I’ve noticed in the near 11 years of being on social media on my kink account that very keen subs/slaves just seem to vanish some after more than 5 years of posting prolifically and been ultra enthusiastic about their sessions and the Mistress they have been serving
Now I know a lot of factors could be in play there could be moving away from an area which means travelling is a problem to get to the sessions or financial problems or a change in a relationship making the sessions no longer possible.
I get all that.

But it is not the same as it used to bed each year more and more of my cyber friends just vanish. I Tweet and when I see the analytics my Tweets barely reach double figures. My account serves no real purpose it is even a waste of time as since I locked my Tweets due to online abuse I can’t even promote Mistress Lilith or the studio as it would be going out to my very few followers.

But back to missing friends of the kink world I wonder how many feel they have hit the wall that they no longer think that they are making the sessions fun.
As I said none of this is on Mistress Lilith at all she has always made me feel safe whilst also keeping me on my toes during the sessions always unpredictable and always positive and fun. Mistress is one of the very few people in my life that are genuinely glad to see me.
The problem is entirely mine. I’ve tried many things during the sessions things that I have never thought of before and I’m glad I tried them I really am as my life has been boring and risk free so to have new experiences is a good thing for myself.

However at the end of the day I think my kink is just too boring. I don’t know how I manage it but I just do.

It is simple. I like to be dressed in a short tight skirt with a wide belt p[ulling in my waist with lacy panties and strappy high heels and a white bloouse and a long hair wig.
Nothing is better being dressed like this and being help over the knee by Mistress and being hand spanked and also hairbrush spanked. I feel alive I feel helpless and dominated and I feel humiliated especially with the scolding and having to say what I am wearing out loud.
Nothing else in my life has given me a bigger thrill than this my heart rate must be sky high.
Standing up in front of Mistress Lilith with my hands out to get the tawse is also such a thrill sheer eurphoria and it forces me to make eye contact which means it enhances the session for me because I can see such a confident strong and beautiful woman having total control over me.
Even strapped over the spanking bench or bondage table when I can’t see Mistress or what item she is going to punish me with is amazing. I prefer over the knee but it is still wonderful

I mean reading this back it looks like I have nothing really to complain about. But I just don’t feel right.
There is a voice in my head getting louder and louder and it tells me that in my kink life I am just as boring a person as I am in my vanilla one.

I know I’m am a nobody in the real world. I have come to accpet that. I also know I’m nothing special in the kink world which is ok it’s not a competition or anything.

It is simple. I like to be dressed in a short tight skirt withha wide belt p[ulling in my waist with lacy panties and strappy high heels and a white bloouse and a long hair wig.
Nothing is better being dressed like this and being help over the knee by Mistress and being hand spanked and also hairbrush spanked. I feel alive I feel helpless and dominated and I feel humiliated especially with the scolding and having to say what I am wearing out loud.
Nothing else in my life has given me a bigger thrill than this my heart rate must be sky high.
Staning up in front of Mistress Lilith with my hands out to get the tawse is also such a thrill sheer eurphoria and it forces me to make eye contact which means it enhances the session for me because I can see such a confident strong and beautiful woman having total control over me.
Even strapped over the spanking bench or bondage table when I can’t see Mistress or what item she is going to punish me with is amazing. I prefer over the knee but it is still wonderful.
There are a couple of things I’ve not tried.

I’ve never had a proper punishment spanking one that would give me a severely red and very sore bum. The sort of spankings I see in the f/f spanking videos I watch it looks amazing to be pushed over your limits especially one video where the girl gets spanked,strapped,tawsed caned and then when she thinks it is all over she gets put over her Mistresses knee and gets a truly blistering hairbrish spanking. That type of video blows my mind. not sure I could take that amount of punishment so I guess I’m contradicting myself

I am also more and more interested in the idea of pegging though I’m not sure my physical ailment would allow that.

I mean reading this back it looks like I have nothing really to complain about. But I just don’t feel right.
There is a voice in my head getting louder and louder and it tells me that in my kink life I am just as boring a person as I am in my vanilla one.

I know I’m am a nobody in the real world. I have come to accept that. I also know I’m nothing special in the kink world which is ok it’s not a competition or anything.

I just feel very alone and lonely and sad and I don’t want to upset anyone in my life and because of this perhaps this is time to call it a day in my kink life.
Writing this has not helped like I thought it would it has just made things looks worse. Nobody reads it anyway so I guess it doesn’t matter much like myself

I will just fade away from the kink scene like I faded away from football and nobody will remember I was ever here,

New improved bucket list

Not in any particularI order these are the things I would like to try out as I continue my journey through submission with the wonderful Mistress Lilith

Making Mistress Lilith happy and have fun is paramount but these things I list would make me happier and I think this would make Mistress even happier and I would be more confident and outgoing in the sessions

Over the knee punishment handspanking to tears no stopping till Mistress thinks I’ve had enough

This has and will always be my numer 1 for things I would like Mistress to do to me.
100% not topping from the bottom here just going on experience

I’ve been handspanked by about 6? different Dommes and a lot of them have been very sore the hardest handspanker was the much missed Mistress Ana. I though she was using a wooden paddle she was spanking so hard. Later that night she sent me a message on Twitter of a photo of her hand whuch was red and brused from spanking me and I felt really bad as it was me who should have been hurt not her. But Mistress Ana really spanked me ridiculously hard and it was at the start of the session and an amazing experience.

Hard as Mistres Lilith handspanks (and that is very hard trust me) it is not as hard as Mistress Ana.
All the other things on this bucket list are technically doable but this one is not

A single Domme no matter how hard she spanks can’t make me cry from just a handspanking.

I really think this is true and is not a boast or a goad it is just I think I can tolerate a very hard handspanking pretty

The rule is it has to be at the start f the session not after I have been strapped and cance etc

Lots of the Mistresess have lovely fancy long painted fingernails and I think that is part of the reason the handspankings will not hurt much and they can’t make me cry

Could I be spanked by hand to the sobbing and crying level by just the hand? I honeslty don’t think so

https://www.mistresslilith.com/ incidently to check out the site and make a session booking

Proper outfit

I’ve never been 100% happy with my outfit for the sessions

It is really important that I feel right and part of the thrill for me it to be wearing the same outfits as the girls do in the spanking videos

I want to be dressed and feel exactly how they do I know it doesn’t make much sense but I know so far I’ve never really got it right

Something like this with black stockings and strappy high heels it looks an easy outfit to put together but I have not managed it yet
What is important is I like the feel of a tight wide belt roound my waist even more so when I still feel it when my skirt issup and panties down and being spanked on the bare bottom same as the feeling on my ankles from the strappy high heels and even the watch tight on my wrist

Kidnap scenario

This more and more consumes my day dreams. A friend had a kidnap scenario role and he said it was the best session ever.

Not sure what it would consist of bundled into a vehicle and then taken to the studio and punished?
But it sounds very exciting

But this is non started for logistical and finacial reasons too many people would neeb to be involved

Birching

I’ve seen quite a few videos of this and apparently it is a slow build up at the start that gets more and more painful as the birching continues. Looks pretty intense but different to any other thing I have been punished with
I leaves great marks not really the ones I like I just like a scarlett bum aith the odd can mark but am willing to try any impliment especially the birch

Pegging

This for me would show my total surrender and upmost trust in Mistress Lilith to try this

I don’t think Mistress Lilith wants my soul I have offered it many times but I know she is quite happy punishing my physical body and being pegged and been called all sort of names makesmy heart beat faster the thought of Mistress Lilith doing this to me makes me feel my heart is almost coming out of my chest
But if my soul in unwanted then this for me is giving up my body to Msitress

You wear short skirts that show off your bum and you admit you want to be penetrated and desipite many warnings about this kind of dressing up and flashing your underwear means only one thing you are getting tied to the spanking bench and taking from behind hard wi the strap on.
That is how I guess the ropleplay would go but Mistress would do the scenario a million times better than my effort.

The thought of this happening after a painful spanking session makes we weak at the kness and a little scared but as Mistress Lilith has said quite a few times it is good to try thing out that you are frightened of. I have absolute trust that Mistress Lilith would take good care of me and keep me safe doing this

I really don’t know life at all

Not that anyone reads this blog (or my Twitter for that matter) but I find in times of trauma writing things down helps a little. Then when I read it back again I feel ten times worse but at least for a while I am free of guilt sadness and depression

Tonight I found something out and I came to a conclussion about myself and how I really am nothing and nobody I always suspected this but hoped that is was just my mental illness talking but now I know it’s true

Don’t think I’ve ever felt as bad as I do now even though there maybe circumstances about the thing causing this thing I don’t know about but I think the odds are probably against this.

I’m not the worlds most intelligent person or have a good personality I try to not be too sensitive and take things personally, I try to be logical and think things out. I maybe don’t do this all the time but I do try really hard.

My brain goes through all the permutations on possible reasons why things happen

The conclsions I have right now are ones I really don’t want to have but I’m maybe having to consider the end of my kink life..

I’m not who I though I was and I don’t think I’m thought of the way I thought I was

This songs lyrics sum up exactly how even in my 50’s I really don’t know anything for sure or at all

I think about every single way something can play out and I can remember nearly every conversation I’ve ever had and yet with all the knowledge I still am totally lost and confused and feel so incredibly lonely in the real world but now in the kink world as well.

I need to do this I may lose everything

I maybe envocing the Streisand effect but in my life people have been treating what I think is my kindness and decency as an excuse to treat me badly as I will be too nice to complain.
In fact a workmate told me the reasons I have had troubles at work involving campaign of bullying is because my crude workmates see my decency as a weakness,

So enough is enough I am standing up for myself seeing as I have just had enough about being lied about and made out to be some sort of dangerous predator and danger to members of the Mistress community and it has now reached a large audience on Twitter and now on my WordPress page and I feel I must speak up.
It is a bit like arguing with flat Earthers or Young Earth Creationists it is a worry that you give their absolute lies legitimacy by debating with them but the allegations against me are so disgusting and truly upsetting I have no choice but to reply or seem if I have something to hide

I have problems with my smartphone it keeps on updating apps and then changing then.
This seems to turn my Twitter from private to public and every single time it happens the abusive personal messages flow in like a torrent.

I am going to try and not name any current Mistresses from the story of what was written

I have blocked this person but I think from memory I can write down exactly what I was accused of and exactly why each and every allegation has zero truth to it

Accusation 1

Mamry (me) first visited a dungeon 23 years ago called Dark Studios? where I had 3 years of sessions with a Mistress Lorraine until she left to pursue an other career opportunity

The truth

23 years ago I was at the end of my professional football career if I visited a Mistress for what has always been my kink spanking,caning,tawsing and generally impact play which would see clear marks all over my bottom then these would have been seen by my football teams mates so that is 1 reason I never visitied a Mistress at this time even in the close season.

I have never heard of a dungeon or studio called Dark Studio have never met or known a Mistress Lorraine have no idea what she looks like or even exists at all the studio I have no idea where it is or if it still exists or not now or then

Allegation 2

I then moved onto another Domme at the studio called Countess Orianna. I saw her for 2 years but one day by chance I met her in the outside world and apparently followed her into a pizza shop and tried to follow her home despite being told to leave her alone after this I was banned from the studio,

The truth

Again I literally have no idea who this Mistress is I have never met her no idea what she looks like or if she exists I certainly didn’t session with her for 2 years. All joking aside I hate pizza and have never been in a pizza shop never mind following someone into one to stalk them.

If I met a Mistress I knew in the real world my default action would be to do nothing to not approach unless I saw a smile or a gesture which I would return but I would never dream in a million years make contact under any circumstances.

I respect the Mistress I am lucky to serve with 100% loyalty and privacy especially her private life outwith the dungeon to the best of my knowledge I have never askeed a question about anything private nor have I did any sort of online snooping to find out personal info this is just disgraceful behaviour of the very worst sort totally destroying the client Mistress confidentiality only the most suspect of people would intrude in such a rude manner into thingss that are none of their business. In fact I don’t even know Mistress Lilith’s real name I refer to her at all times as Mistress and willl continue to do so as long as I am allowed to session with her.
If Mistress cares to share some information about her private life especially if it is something I can help with then I am delighted but I can say hand on heart on the 20th July this year it will be 10 years to the day of my first session with Mistress Lilith and I would I know very little more about her now private life now in 2022 than I did when I first met her because not because I am not interested in her on the contrary I am fascinated by her and feel the more I know the better gifts I can buy her isthe real reason is simple I am not nosey and again it is none of my business and it does not make me a better sub in the studio

Allegation3

Since supposedly being banned from the studio I then moved onto a Mistress who had set up in a private flat a Mistress Vienna?. I was supposed to session with her for 3 years before her boyfriend ordered me out the house because he felt I was a dangerous character and not to be trusted with his girlfriend he said I was squinting my eye on purpose to try and look up her dress.

The truth

Again utter complete nonsense again I have never heard of this Mistress I have never had a session anyway else other than Abstraktme

Well I do have a terrible squint which I am ashamed of and I hate seeing any pictures of myself but my eye is basically .paralysed at one side of my eye socket as is part of my eyelid I look hideous I am called squinty boy at work and other horrible names.
One thing though when playing football any ball coming over my left shoulder I found hard to judge the heght and speed of it to control it as I have limited vision and movement in my eye so for me to somehow be cured of this and be look up a Mistress dress with an eye that can’t move is actually not physically possible to do as I literallyy have a blind spot.
I am also not a sleaze a perv and leery creep towards women I love and respect women I have never in my life wolfwhistled or made an inappropriate remark to any woman it is just not who I am ,
In fact I have a tell about how I feel about a woman the more attractive I find a woman the harder I find to make eye contact I get nervous and just have smally glances mostly so they don’t see my eye deformity or think I am being too intrusive and making them nervous
To this day without cheating and looking at a photo I could not tell you the colour of Mistress Liliths eyes as I can only look at her for so long before I have to look away.

Allegation 4

I left to move up North to continue my kink life as I was blacklisted in the whole of Central Scotland

The truth

I did leave the Glasgow area but not for any blacklisting reasons I got a good job in a very nice place to stay.

Allegation 5

I returned several years later and started to session with my current Mistress who I have been serving for 10 years and I would like to say though at times I know she feels like strangling me she can vouch for my conduct and that I have not done any of the allegations directed against me which would be hard for me to disguise for 10 years.
If I did I can assure you I would literally be booted out the door

Anyway my accuser claims that he knows several Mistresses who work there on a personal not professional level and there are the same stories coming from all these Mistresses all seeing to corroborate the allegations.
Uneasy being in the same room as him seems to be the allegation.

Allegedly there are always Mistresses waiting for their next client up the stairs of the studio the studio supposedly always has at least one more Mistress adnd sometimes a sub/slave for security reasons

A group of the Mistresses asked that I not be allowed to use the school room as they felt unsafe with me being there far too close to the room they are waiting in o the same floor and they 0ften on a nice s day would sit out on a roof terrace! that the studios has which I have never heard of so they have plenty time to sit and talk and this leads onto clients and who is fun and who is to be watched carefully and they are safe from me having a session a floor below

The truth

My Mistress would give the newer girls a 20 minute session with some of her regular clients apparently I do not know if this is true but I have been lucky to have some time in a session with I think 5 Mistresses each different each with there own style and each exciting to be with and good fun even the one school bully brief session which scared me a bit was part of the learning experience and since the Mistress in question on Twitter has been nothing but lovely and kind to me sending me very nice Tweets and words of encouragement when I was previously targetted with this online bully
I hope all the Dommes that I have sessioned with whilst not consider me the best sub they have met but would hope we would be on friendly terms the DM messages on Twitter I hope confirm this.
I try to be nice and respectful in the sessions with them but even being painfully shy I also try to make the session fun.
I hope that if they did not find me a memorable client at least they would find me mannerly and trying to be friendly and funny.

Allegation 6

Marmy looks at them funny and has really bad breath and terrible B.O he is especially dirty round his backside area making spanking him a smelly ordeal for the Mistress involved with caked excrement on his bum
He named Mistress Argenta and Goddess Erryn who we claims he drinks with in a pub near Queen Street railway station and he told me all about what I am though about by the Dommes and how many refuse to session with me and only do it out of loyalty to Mistress Lilith

The truth

I shower before leave for the session and shave my backside thoroughly
Before Covid I used to shower in Central Station as well when I arrived in Glasgow
Now All I can do is go to the toilets in the local bookmakers and clean myself as much as possible with wet wipes but I take my personal hygiene very seriously and would be devastated if this allegation was true.
I brush my teeth thoroughly and use mouthwash plus I use deodorant as it is usually quite hot walking up the stairs to the studio and I can sweat but I assure you that I am a clean person once a session is finished I go straight to my shower at home if Central stations were open I would use that before i got on the train

Allegation 7

Goddess Erryn refuses to session with me at all she says she feels I am a volatile man she reported my Twitter on nuerous occasions for Tweets I made about how the punishment to my bum was the worst yeat and I was nearly at the broken skin stage which I have always been scared of but secretly wanted.
She reported it as violating the rules

The truth

I have never ever met her or interacted on Twitter with her I have no idea why this allegation has been made don’t even know what she looks like amd there is no evidence of this Twitter complaint nor have ~ been warned for content

Allegation 8

All the Dommes who have spanked me over their knees make the same claim that i rub my private parts against them in an effort to get off. I also take any chance to try and touch any part of a Dommes body without permission

The turth

Ok this is hard to write I am a bit scared it might cause serious trouble for m but I try to always tell the truth in life and on here so here goes

I love over the knee spanking from a confident strong intelligent powerful and dominant woman.
I had this kink before puberty i thought more about this as a teenager than I did about actual sex
When Mistress Lilith orders me over her knee and holds me tight so I know I can struggle to get away from what is coming I am in sheer bliss.
Helpless submissive tentative a little scared but really excited .
The feeling of being over her knee is just heaven on earth the first spanks a joy the harder one still joyous the hairbrush sheer bliss
The only thing that could better this feeling would be handspanked to tears with no impliments used but I think that would take about 5 Mistresses working in tandem just another fantasy like the birching or kidnapping that is just too difficult to organise,

But here is the bit I don’t know if I should write

The sessions are a sensual experience I think for most that is the case of course you should never expect a sexual act if that is the case it is an escort you are looking for not a Domme and it is an insult and sheer ignorance to even ask a professional Dominatrix to give you a service that is clearly not going to happen.
But nonetheless I find it is an aspect of sensuality when the most beautiful woman you have ever seen has you over her knee to punish you but I do not attempt t o get a sexual thrill out of it.

At this point my brain kicks in and whilst savouring every single moment my concentration is just as much as not getting aroused.
I have to speak now in crude terms I hate doing it but have to be clear on where I stand on this issue
I don’t want to get an errection and tiny as it is I would be horrified to have Mistress feel me pressing into her thighs. I would be ashamed beyond words I woild think this was an insult to her.
When my panties come down for the bare bottom spanking I don’t want to leave a trail of precum all over the place.
I actually hold myself about a couple of inches above Mistresses lap when I am Otk spanked I don’t want my weight on her or her to feel any arousal from me I always do this I always am above Mistresses lap it is the only time I don’t obey orders partly because I feel I am fat and too heavy and mostly because I don’t want any sexual arousal being felt
I feel it is me treating Mistress Lilith as some sort of sex object to get off on when much as I adore her and think her the most pretty wonderful woman I have ever met I do not want to think of her as a sex object for me to get sexually off on.

I just think for me and me only others can disagree that it is bad manners for me to show real arousal while being punished I worry I am insulting Mistress by doing it
At the end of the session when the butt plug and vibrator come out again Im battling to not be aroused and when I am ordered to relieve myself at the end of the session it is always tense for me
I do this but I find it difficult and it feels great when I orgasm the best Ive ever had even counting the very few sexual encounters I have had. But I close my eyes and just think of the girly clothes I am wearing and how I was spanked like a naughty little brat which usually works but I just don’t want Mistress to think I’m looking at her and doing it as if I am treating her as an object not the most wonderful person I have ever met
I can look at how confident and powerful and totally in control Mistress Lilith is especially as she is drop dead gorgeous and even the clicking of her heels makes my heart a flutter but I do not want to look at her and orgasm I just respect and yes I’m going to say it love her too much and don’t want to be seen masturbating as if I am watching a porn film or gents magazine.
I know I am not making sense I wish I could describe it better.

She says it shows my devotion to her so that is why without question I will always do it and hopefully for years to come I just want to make her happy which most of the time I am not sure I do.
But I just do not want her to see me looking at her and ejaculating I feel I am disrepecting her and treating the most magical person I’ve ever known as just some sort of sex object for my gratification

So this trying to rub one off while being spanked or trying to touch a Mistress is the biggest lie of the lot.My entire session is spent to be as little aroused as possible and not let my self get errect.
I respect everyone one and would never dream of touching anyoe male or female without their permission

Look I do not think much of myself I am not sure I am nice person but I try to be a good mannered person and a gentleman at all times and be polite and respectful.
If any of these allegations made against me were true I would admit them but they are all the ramblings of a nasty disturbed mind and as shameful as I feel bearing some of my closest thoughts down on paper I feel I have to defend myself lest 1 person read them and thinks it’s true

If you read this I hope it clears things up and I’m sorry for the graphic parts

Everything you wanted to know about visiting a Mistress/Dominatrix for the first time (but were too afraid to ask)

I do not pretend to be an expert but this is my guide written from the heart using my experience and is something I wish I had known before I started on this journey.

1. Finding a Mistress where to start.

For me it was as easy as searching for anything else on the internet.
I just typed in Glasgow spanking Mistress and very many hits came up.
You will find lots of hits for your area if you do this.
There are also many dedicated search sites that have databases of Mistress’s by region.

http://pandemos.net/directory/4582620813
http://www.ukmistressguide.co.uk/ukmistresses.html

2 What to look for on a Mistress’s site

Any reputable Mistress will have a professional website with all the information you need about the Mistress and what services that she offers.
I have been lucky enough to session with Mistress’s in Glasgow and this is her site.

http://www.mistresslilith.com/

The site has all the information you could wish to make your decision.

There will be a gallery of pictures of the Mistress showing what she looks like and some of the clothing she will wear during the session remember you are not ordering a fashion model to dress up for you but many Mistress are happy to wear a special outfit if this is part of your fetish (school teacher look,leather/rubber fetish,uniform)

There will be a description of the services offered during the session and what fetishes the Mistress will cater for so read this carefully.
If your fetish is not listed you can always ask
Apart from the practices that we all find unacceptable (anything involving children or cruelty to animals for instance) I reckon the Mistress you contact will have heard nearly all the fetishes and fantasies there are before so do not be afraid to ask if yours is not listed.

But if for what ever reason the Mistress cannot help you with your fetish then take no for an answer.
This is not up for negotiation if the Mistress does not cater for your particular fetish do not insult her by trying to persuade her to do so you will get nowhere

And under no circumstance ask for any sexual services no true Mistress would ever perform a sex act on a submissive or have a submissive perform a sex act on them if this is what you are looking for I suggest you are not really wanting a Mistress and instead look up the many prostitute/escort sites on the internet.This is about dominant,humiliation,submission and a hundred other things but it is not about sex.

There will be photos and a description of where the session will take place and what equipment is in the dungeon/studio or domestic setting where it takes place so you will know what to expect when you arrive.

There will be a page with reviews from clients just like yourself where you can read about what happened during their sessions,
There is also this good site where you can also read reviews

http://mistressreview.com/Mistress-Reviews/

There will be a page with the tributes (fees) for the session.
Depending on what type of session you want this tribute will vary in price if the tribute is not listed on the website your Mistress will let you know and agree a price once she knows what amount of time and what type of session you want when you contact her by phone.email.
Do not insult Mistress by asking for a discount these fees are non negotiable and if you are looking for money off I would suggest your heart is not into the world of submission rather you are a cheapskate

3 How to contact the Mistress

On the website there will be clear instructions on how to get in touch to arrange a session.
There will be a couple of ways to do this there may be a contact form where you will fill in your email address and space for you to put down the time you would like to visit and a description of what type of session you would like.
If this is not available there will be a mobile phone number for you to call if using the phone it is very important do not withhold your number or your call will not be answered.
Now this is vital to remember you are dealing with a professional and she should be treated as such.
A pro-domme is like any other professional (doctor lawyer etc) and she will be a very very busy person.
Do not send an email or leave a phone message and then send another if you are not answered within a couple of hours.
Be patient and you will get a reply
Do not be a pain and clog up the inbox or voice mail of Mistress with repeated messages this will also see you not get an answer.
Oh and do not be really stupid and start any correspondence with ‘hey babe’ Hi Love’ or anything similar.
You are dealing with a professional dominant woman so treat her with the utmost courtesy and be polite and respectful at all times.
You may also be asked to make a deposit of part of the tribute this is to deter time wasters and should not be a problem if you are a sincere and serious about the session you have booked.

4 The day of the session

Few things to remember

You know that sign in your Doctors surgery that says 58 patients failed to turn up for appointments this month?
Well it is exactly the same with a Mistress.
If you book a session do not treat it as something you can call off on the same day as you have changed your mind.
Respect your Mistress and respect others like you who may not be able to book a session because you have the only time slot that they could mange only to cancel.
You may be asked to phone up a couple of hours before your session to confirm please do this as it is only right and correct that your Mistress knows you are coming.

You will be given clear and easy to understand instructions on how to get to the place where the session will be taking place please make sure you have plenty of time for your journey and that you arrive for your allotted appointment time.

Make sure you are clean and presentable as your Mistress I can assure you will be immaculate and the least you can do is the same.
Make sure you are fresh and tidy have a shower or bath on the morning of your session.
I find that I am still very nervous before my session and this added to the stairs I have to climb to the studio means I am sweating a lot.
What I also do is have some wet wipes and a small can of deodorant to wipe myself down with just before I go to the door of the studio so I look and feel as good as I can for Mistress.

You may want to check the wishlist on your Mistress site for a gift you can bring Mistress.
Be sensible though if the item on the wishlist you buy is a fetish wear item keep it in the bag and out of site the studio may be in a shared building and marching in with a thigh high pair of boots in full show is not a good idea!

5 Before the session

Your Mistress will have discussed by phone or email what sort of session you will have but when you meet in person she will take the time to have a quick chat with you to go over a few things.
This is not the time to be shy if there is anything you do not understand or are unsure about speak up.
For instance I asked how I should refer to Mistress when addressing her.
Some may wish to be know by their full name others by Goddess or Madam
Use whatever you are told at all times as it shows the proper respect.
Mistress will be friendly at helpful before the session and will put you at ease please try not to be afraid to talk to her it will help both of you get the most out of the session.
Your Mistress will discuss what sort of things you are going to do in the session and will perhaps ask you a few things along the lines of

is it ok to mark you with the punishments,

what kind of role play,

what implement you want to use and don’t want to use,

what sort of limits you have

and if you are looking for a more severe punishment you may be given a safe word which when you say it the punishment will stop.
Mistress will be in control and look after you do not be scared nothing will happen that is not agreed on before
Safe sane and consensual is the order of the day.

There is an elephant in the room and that is the handing over of the tribute.
I used to and still feel a bit awkward about this but it really is nothing to worry about.
This is just you paying the going rate for a first class professional service for an expert in their field.
Mistress will ask you for this fee before the session starts and you just hand it over.
Do not be insulted if Mistress wants to count it out in front of you this is to protect you both and make sure all is in order in fact you may well have counted it out wrong and paid too much so it is best all is straight up and above board for all concerned.

Once this is concluded Mistress may leave the room for a minute.
You may be asked to strip off and kneel in the submissive position or if in my case cross dressing is part of the session this gives you time to dress up,
This is the start of your session and from now on Mistress will be in control so sit back and enjoy the ride 🙂

6 The session

Everyone will have a different session depending on their tastes but a brief rule of thumb for them all I think is as follows.

Mistress is in charge,You may have a detailed roleplay and scenario in your mind that you want to try out but Mistress is an expert at this and will give you very close to what you are looking for but will add a few twists of her own which will make the session much better than you dared dream.
Be careful there is a phrase  ‘Topping from the bottom’

If your session involves corporal punishment do not attempt to call the shots and ask to be punished in a certain order or in a certain way.
This will really cheese off your Mistress if you attempt to do this and rightly so.
You are not in control of the session Mistress is and knows far better than you how to do a fun and enjoyable session.

Don’t be worried if you become sexually aroused.Though the session has nothing to do with sex for me it can be an arousing experience when you are dominated by a powerful and beautiful woman.
I would go further it is impossible for me not to be excited and stimulated during a session no matter how much I try not to.
My Mistress always comments on this with me and this adds to the humiliation when I am told my little sissy clitty stick should not be getting hard and I must be punished more for this.

This is the fantasy you have probably had for years and you are fulfilling it so for your own sake enjoy and make the most of it and I know you will have fun if you relax and let yourself go.

Even better your Mistress will have fun as well it gives me so much pleasure seeing Mistress happy during a session and knowing that I have helped make her happy by being the best submissive I can
Like most things in life the more you put into a session means the more you will get out of it I promise you this is the case.
do not be afraid let your inhibitions go you will not regret it.

Now something happened at the end of my first session and has also happened at the end of all the subsequent other ones that I did not expect and I have to mention it.
At the end of the first session I was ordered by Mistress to relieve myself in front of her.
I was so nervous that I could not do it.
Since then I have managed to do it every time I have been ordered to.

There is absolutely no physical contact between myself and Mistress I am ordered to lie down as she stands across the room from me and gives me a time limit to orgasm if I do not do it in this time I am to be punished more.
I do not know if this is the case with all Mistress’s at the end of a session but though it makes me feel a little bit uneasy doing it as I am scared I am objectifying Mistress the fact that I know that Mistress wants me to do it and she would not order me to do it if it did not make her happy and I so want to make her happy during a session.

7 After the session

Mistress will leave when the session is done and give you time to compose yourself and get dressed.
There maybe shower facilities on offer at the studio.dungeon for you to further freshen up.
(I take my life in my hands and use the showers in the train station next to the studio there are a few horror stories I could tell about that! but I have a long journey home by public transport and I don’t want to stink the place out)
Mistress will return and you should be able to have a quick chat about the session with Mistress and you will find her as fun and friendly outwith the session as you did find strict and severe in it,This is the time to ask anymore questions and discuss what you would like to do on your next visit.
But remember Mistress is very busy and will have another session starting soon so do not over stay your welcome no matter how much you are enjoying chatting (I am still guilty of this I just want to stay and talk all day)
Remember to thank Mistress for her time and the session you had.

Well I hope this is helpful to any new subs out there and gives you an idea of what to expect when you visit a Mistress for the first time.
I am @Sissy_Sakur on twitter please feel free to add me if you want to chat or if there are any other questions you have about this I would love to talk with you and try and help in any way I can.

7. My conclusions (update 19-10-21)

I posted this in 2014 when I had been having sessions for 3 years and still not hit double figures in sessions with Mistress Lilith and was still learning as I still am tosay reaching my 10th anniversary of being in submiaaion with Mistress Lilith.

Looking back I think it is still pretty much relevant and I have not edited anything .

If you happen to stumble across this as a novice and it helps that would be wonderful you have to trust me you can’t be any worse of a nervous wreck than I was when I first booked and attended a session. Honestly I was is such a state but withing 5 minutes I knew I had made the right choice and I can say hand on hard ten years later and dozens of sessions in I still fee lthe same sense of excitment and endless wonder every single time I walk into that studio and see and hear Mistress Lilith.
I thought about going for a session literally for about 20+ years before I actually managed to do it and I have only one regret that I ddn’t do it way sooner.

Life for me is fleeting there is nothing that has convinced me on my time of Earth that there is anything after our natural lifespan and that our conciousness dies when we do, Faith is not evidence so I feel you must act on your deepest fantasies now and do not waste a precious moment because it could all end in an instance.

My life in general is not a happy one but the hours spent in a session with Mistress Lilith are as happy a time as I have ever spent in my life. Please do not be scared the reality is much better than the fantasy. Take the plunge don’t have regrets years later you will find a whole new undiscovered country awaits you and will meet some of the very most remarkable people you will ever know in your entre life.